Reinventing yourself to live closer in line to your values is something we should all strive to do, especially if we’ve been following a path that doesn’t feel quite right. And the brilliant thing is, it’s never too late! Today’s outspoken and hilarious guest, Alli Waddell, is over 40 and states, without a doubt, that she is quitting herself!
Alli has been in the wellness industry for 17 years, starting as a fitness instructor and exploring careers as a nutritionist, attending culinary school, and realizing that true health comes from within. She’s now opened her own ketamine infusion clinic, Illumma, where they provide alternative mental health treatments. It’s been a long journey to get to where she is now, but Alli has faced both her supporters and naysayers with a casual, and sometimes crass, nonchalance.
But now that Alli has found a career path that fulfills her, she’s turning her attention to being a voice for those who can’t speak up. In this rare politically fueled episode, we talk about the recent war against women’s reproductive health and Alli opens up and shares the many reasons why having an abortion was the right choice for her.
Alli’s passion for women’s reproductive rights is rampant in this episode. She shares that when she hits menopause, she might mourn the children she never had, but she made the decision to be childfree of her own free will, and with complete confidence. It’s okay to mourn our choices and still be satisfied with them.
We need to break the stigma of what your life has to look like in order to have an abortion. Unwanted and unexpected pregnancies can happen to anyone, and there is no shame in making a tough decision. Education and healthcare are paramount to reducing the number of abortions, not bans.
How do you live in accordance with your values? Have you ever felt you want to start over again, even when you’re hitting later in life? Do you stand up for the rights of others? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!
In This Episode:
Quotes:
“I have to let go of her in order to fully embrace this new thing. To me, feels like the next evolution of me, in this higher version of myself.” (5:49)
“That unease is just because I don’t know that I’ve done the work that I need to do to kind of solidify, or that vision hasn’t fully come into what exactly that is gonna look like.” (10:53)
“[When I got an abortion,] it was f*cking hard, it was hard and it was sad and it was traumatic… but it was the best choice. And it was the best choice for everyone involved. It was the best choice for him, it was the best choice for me, and it was the best choice for that baby.” (19:34)
“I think if you believe in pro-life and you haven’t adopted a kid from foster care, you need to shut the f*ck up.” (22:46)
“I feel like we’re living the la-la land. But the only thing that I can say, is I think this is the final death grip of a bunch of old white men who are f*cking terrified about the storm that is about to come raining down on them. And this is their last ditch effort to grab onto all they can have because their time is coming to an end. And they know it, and they’re scared shitless. Because that’s what happens when people are scared, they go after f*cking power.” (23:31)
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There’s a fine line to walk between being unsupportive and letting someone make decisions for themselves. When today’s guest, personal trainer and paleo guru Tony Federico, was a teenager, he was a chronic quitter. He didn’t have anyone telling him not to quit when he wasn’t feeling something, and instead of this having an adverse effect on his life, Tony’s confidence in his own decisions grew.
Tony has quit nearly everything he’s come across in life - karate, football, high school, and a fair few of his jobs. But this doesn't mean that he’s wasting his life. Far from it, actually.
Tony has used his tendency to quit to have some forced introspection and truly examine what he wants out of life. After a death in his late teens, he used this period to figure out and understand that he wants to spend his life focused on health and wellness.
For the past 10 years, Tony has been working as a personal trainer and contributor to paleo health publications. And now, he’s working as the Vice President of Marketing for paleo health company, Natural Force.
In this episode, Tony and I talk about how taking hold of your own life decisions, even if it means quitting, can lead to some incredible experiences and opportunities. We also look at what happens if you actually stick something through to the end - and see what amazing outcomes are possible.
Tony eventually replaced his quitting tendencies with overcommitment. This led to some issues as well, however, and ultimately led him to realize he needed to find a place of balance between quitting and committing. We also examined the differences between the “painful known” and the “unknown possibility” and talked about how these concepts can help you find balance.
Are you, or have you been, a chronic quitter? How have you learned to explore the limitless possibility to design your own life? Do you use exercise to help you make decisions?
In This Episode:
Quotes:
“Maybe that’s part of it. I didn’t have a lot of people telling me to not quit.” (6:14)
“There is an openness for the first time and a willingness to do the self-examination for the very first time.”(9:08)
“It’s hard, but that doesn’t mean you need to stop. Discomfort is part of the process. You’re not gonna feel good the entire time.” (12:27)
“It’s not just about quitting something or committing to something. It’s about - what am I really trying to achieve in my life. What is the real big picture goal?” (16:32)
“How do you know the next thing is going to be better? And the answer is - you don’t. But what you do know is the pain you don’t want.” (27:22)
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Have you ever pursued a goal, only to later realize that goal wasn’t going to fulfil *you,* it was only going to serve your ego or fill a void you had inside?
That’s exactly what happened to Bryan Stacy when his near decade-long pursuit of getting into the FBI culminated with him realizing that the reasons he’d wanted that job were to fill a void within himself. At that point he embarked on some major changes - many of which led him to follow the things that made him anxious and find ways to deal with his own pain points head-on.
In a rare solo episode, Lynn Marie lays it all out: how she got into medicine, how she felt along the ten-year journey it took to get from pre-med to sports medicine/family medicine board certified, and the struggles to make medicine work since then.
She’s been in her own strategic quit for years, and, taking her own advice, she finally had to leave clinical medicine, even if the next thing wasn’t yet in place.
You’ll laugh, you’ll cry (actually, she cries *for* you so you’re off the hook there), but most of all, you’ll get a look into why she’s so passionate about helping others quit - because she’s been there, and she’s living what she preaches.
For most entrepreneurs, the fear of not having enough money to keep a venture going can be daunting. As can the fear of ruffling feathers to the point that their business may suffer due to its disruptiveness.
When he set out to change healthcare, J.R. Burgess came up against both of those fears. He had to quit the mindsets around money and societal approval that were holding him back, and since doing so, his business has soared.
If you've ever feared investing money in yourself or your business, or you've feared going against the grain, this episode is for you!