Quit Happens | How (and why!) to strategically quit your job, leave your relationship, or part ways with toxic mindsets.

Dr. Lynn Marie Morski is a physician, attorney and lifelong quitter. Through her “Quitting by Design” website she helps people carve out successful lives through strategic quitting. Her goal is to destigmatize quitting and illustrate what a useful tool it can be in creating a fulfilling life. In this show, she interviews people who have used strategic quitting successfully in their paths with the goal of providing listeners actionable advice to help them quit their way to success.
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Oct 30, 2019

Finding that balance between work and life might not be that easy when you work a demanding job, such as a doctor. But what happens when you decide to take back the power of having time off? Dr. Ali Novitsky joins me to talk about how she quit her thriving career in pediatrics to pursue other medical avenues, eventually leading to her successful coaching career.

Ali and her husband were both working time-consuming and very demanding medical jobs that meant they had to hire multiple babysitters. Even when Ali got a new position as a medical director working from home, she still wasn’t finding the time to both be with her children and take adequate time off. When her friend asked her to go to a coaching retreat with her, however, she figured out how to make it happen.

Quitting something you’ve thought you would be for your entire life, like a doctor, shook Ali’s identity. She didn’t know who she was if she wasn’t a doctor. But the decisions she’s made have led her to feel more fulfilled with purpose and direction in life. 

Ali now works with over-functioning female physicians to regain control of their mind, body, and relationship. She explains what the difference between therapy and life coaching is and how a coach can help their clients take action to make changes in their life - to actually give and recommend advice.

One of the biggest things Ali sees is that women are afraid to ask for help. We all need to be more comfortable with actually asking for assistance when we need to. And, on this note, once we start changing the expectations we’ve set for ourselves in our own heads we can start to expand our lives.

Lastly, Ali shares why it’s so important to let our vulnerabilities show. People connect with people, with real stories, with real struggles, traumas, happiness, and life. That’s why it’s okay to share your vulnerabilities with people. But it’s also important to remember that not everyone is as open, and one person’s vulnerability might look much more closed than another’s.

How do you share your vulnerability? Do you have an ideal expectation for where you’re going in your life? When’s the last time you asked for help?

In This Episode:

  • How there is power in having time to have a life
  • How making a quit, even if it’s the best decision for you, can totally shake your identity
  • What the difference between therapy and coaching is
  • Why you shouldn’t be afraid of asking for help when you need it
  • What happens when you change your expectations
  • How to understand different levels of vulnerability
  • Why it’s okay to share your vulnerabilities



“A large proportion of the women I work with are single. They have this really difficult time because they think they should be doing more because they have less to manage. But that is not true. They’re not even equal. They shouldn’t even be linked together.” (19:25)

“Asking for help is a practice that takes practice.” (32:34)

“All you have to do is one time show the vulnerability. It only has to happen one time. You automatically get acclimated. Then the vulnerability does not feel scary anymore.” (36:05)




Then you’re in luck! Because my online course, Make Quit Happen, is available to start now! It’s a six-week program in which each week we tackle a different step in the strategic quitting process so that at the end of the course you know WHAT you need to quit, you have overcome any quitting-related FEARS, and you’ve got HOW to make the quit happen all planned out!

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Oct 22, 2019

This week I talk about my recent experience at a personal development retreat called Training Camp for the Soul. It was intense work, as deep as any plant medicine work I have done, and many in attendance ended up deciding to make some big quits of their own.

I focus in this episode on two big overarching quits that came up in the retreat: quitting our old scripts and quitting the stories we make up about what happens to us (that often don't serve us and which are frequently not at all based in reality).

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Oct 15, 2019

I'm so excited to celebrate 100 episodes (can you believe it?) of Quit Happens with you today, and to do so, I'm going to be sharing two interviews where I was the guest on other podcasts. 

If you're a regular listener you're probably already familiar with Mike Bledsoe of The Bledsoe Show and Josh Trent of Wellness Force. I love these two humans so much and wanted to share these two amazing conversations for you to enjoy as well.

A couple links I mention that are worth checking out:

Jason Goldberg's Episode 

And the even funnier YouTube video


Show Notes From My Episode On The Bledsoe Show

Dr. Lynn Marie Morski is a physician, attorney, and life-long quitting enthusiast. She practices medicine at the Veterans Administration and shares her love of strategic quitting through speaking, coaching, and her podcast Quit Happens. Her goal is to pass on the strategic quitting skills she's developed to help people go from settling to succeeding. When she's not doctoring, lawyering, or evangelizing quitting, Dr. Morski is also a certified yoga instructor, trains the Brazilian martial art of capoeira, plays guitar and bass, and dances like everyone is watching.

In this episode, we talk about strategic quitting, her various careers, her book Quitting By Design, and her upcoming podcast on plant medicine


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Show Notes From My Episode On Wellness Force

“You want to live your truth as much as you can. So many people think that “quitting” is this dirty word but to me, “settling,” is the dirty word.” – Dr. Lynn Marie Morski

Deep down you know it's time for a change but how can you leave a job, relationship, or educational pursuits and feel secure, safe, and happy about your quit? 

On Wellness Force Radio episode 247, Coach, Speaker, Author of Quitting by Design, and Host of the Quit Happens PodcastDr. Lynn Marie Morski, shares why quitting can be a beneficial form of self-care and discovering what works for each person, the number one reason why people don't embrace the quit, and how quitting vs. settling are two very different things

Discover what a strategic quit is and how to use it to your advantage and for the benefit of your mind and body. 

Thousands of self-help books have been written to tell people to live their best lives, without necessarily addressing the fact that making major life changes almost always requires quitting one thing and starting another.

This pain point – the quitting itself – is often the barrier to change. Many avoid quitting because they fear the unknown. Will they find another career or relationship? Will their new path provide financial stability? Will friends and family question the decision to quit?  Will society see them as quitters?

These questions generally go unaddressed. But that’s where Quitting by Design comes in – its sole focus is to help people through their quits successfully so they can proceed with their transformations. It’s a step-by-step guide that takes readers from deciding if there’s something they should quit all the way to preparing their health, finances, and relationships for a quiet, and it helps them conquer any fears that may pop up along the way.

Dr. Lynn Marie Morski knows how to address fears and prepare your health, relationships, and finances for a quit because she's been there time and again. She has quit educational pursuits, jobs, careers, relationships, political parties…you name it; she's found a way to quit it while maximizing the benefits and minimizing the challenges associated with major life changes. And she wants nothing more than to pass these skills along to you.
With this book, Dr. Morski aims to pass on what she's learned about quitting not only from her own experiences but also through interviews with others who have made successful quits themselves. She tackles the stigma surrounding quitting while highlighting what a useful and necessary tool it can be in carving out a life you enjoy.

Listen To Episode 247 As Dr. Lynn Marie Morski Uncovers:

  • Her journey as a “lifelong quitter” from going to a physician to an attorney to a law professor.
  • The connection between mental and physical health when it comes to feeling shame.
  • Steps we can take to just stop being so serious all the time.
  • Why our fear of the unknown makes it so hard to quit when it comes to moving on with our health, wealth, and relationships.
  • How to get over the anxiety of what other people think of our quit when we want to make a life change.
  • Why money is the number one reason why people don't embrace the quit.
  • How to test out your quit in your mind to see how it feels long before you actually take action.
  • Why she's against the idea that everything happens for a reason but doesn't have any regrets because they've all led her to this very moment in her life.
  • The signs that it's time for a quit and how to recognize them.
  • What to do if your inner circle is not on board with your strategic quit and fresh start.
  • How to get out of the mindset that “quitters” never win and you have to fake it to make it.
  • Why sharing your quits with other people can help other people with their own strategic quits.
  • The stigmas around quitting and why society has leaned towards this narrative of shaming people for making drastic life changes.
  • Journaling practice for strategic quitting and discovering where you need to make a life change. 
  • How to prepare your health for a quit via insurance and hospital check-up visits.
  • Wellness practices you should get in order before you make the strategic quit actually happen.
  • Steps you can take to quit an “identity” and create a new one that truly fits who you want to be.
  • Diversification of identity: why we aren't just one thing but many parts within our own identity.
  • How quitting can actually be a generous act for not only yourself but other people too.
  • Her 3 physical practices that can help you get clear about whether or else you need a strategic quit.

Power Quotes From The Show

“If you're quitting something that may seem like a dream job to others or feel this societal pressure to not quit, you have to stop and realize that the people who are going to judge you aren't you. They're not in your shoes, they're not in your head, and they're not living your life. You're the one who has to live your life; why should you let what somebody else's thoughts of you shape your existence?” – Lynn Marie Morski

“Does your boss want an employee who's constantly looking for a way out? No. Do other people a favor by quitting. Quitting is actually a generous act at some point because they should want somebody in that position who wants to be in that position. If you're forcing yourself to be in this job, you're actually doing them a disservice and there's an opportunity cost for both you and them.” – Lynn Marie Morski

“As a society, we're avoiding putting ourselves out there. We need to quit this facade, quit the mask, and quit this external game. Social media has made it so much worse and is doing the opposite of what it should be doing.” – Lynn Marie Morski

Links From Today's Show

Oct 8, 2019

To gear up for episode 100, I take a look back at some of the most impactful and important lessons learned over the past 98 episodes. There are quits you didn't see coming, and timeless lessons you'll want to revisit again. Hope you enjoy the look back at what you may have missed and what episodes you may want to go back and listen to for more!

Oct 1, 2019

There’s a beauty in taking a failure, rejection, no, or quit and turning it into something good. It starts with reshaping our minds to see these as opportunities instead. Matthew del Negro has made his life out of accepting no’s with grace.

Matthew is an actor and host of the 10,000 No’s podcast. Being an actor, he’s faced many rejections in his life from auditions and pilot episodes, rarely getting callbacks. It’s just the life of an actor! But he’s looking at the positive side of these no’s and has decided to celebrate them for what they are: opportunities in disguise.

Now that we’ve established that facing rejection is a chance for the Universe to bring something else to your attention, it’s important to remember that those people you think of as an overnight success are really not. They’ve all gone through the rejection process and have come out on top. But just because you’ve succeeded once, doesn’t mean you will every time - the struggle doesn’t stop just because you’re at the top, it just changes.

But Matthew says that just because you accept these no’s or the quits you decide to do, you might still feel a sense of loss and disappointment. It’s okay to feel these, but it’s not okay to wallow in those feelings. Overall, Matthew shares that you need to listen to what your heart wants because it’s rarely going to steer you wrong.

One way to help reframe your feelings of rejection is to look at life as one giant audition. Matthew explains how each audition that didn’t end in an acting gig was building who he was, helping his reputation, and taking him closer to the big break. The Universe has its own path for you, you just have to trust it.

Have you faced a no in your life before? How do you deal with rejection? When is the last time you put your trust in the Universe? Let us know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

  • Why “overnight successes” are anything but 
  • Why you need to understand that the struggle doesn’t just stop when you have one success
  • What emotions you can experience even when you’re sure you want to quit something
  • Why you should listen to what your heart wants
  • Why you should treat your entire life as an audition
  • How you can trust that the Universe has its own path for you
  • How you can reframe your idea of failure



“They have a very different idea of what my life is from what it really is. They see that little tip of the iceberg, they don’t see everything else that goes into it.” (7:01)

“Your problems don’t go away, they just morph into something different. Your challenges.” (13:02)

“Are you doing it because you told everybody and you’re doing it because you care about them and what they think of you and it’s a bad look? Or are you doing something that you’re really following your heart.” (19:04)

“Sometimes quitting, or sometimes a “no,” doesn’t mean you’re never going to do a thing. It just means you’re not doing this thing right now.” (22:07)


Find Matthew Del Negro Online 

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Get 10% off your order of Remarkable Wellness adaptogenic mushrooms with code QUIT10!


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